Are there many older mums or mums with older husbands too? I have 2 older boys, 12 and 14, and now a 1 year old daughter. I'm 39 now and my partner 46. We love our daughter to death but have been made to feel like we shouldn'thave had her by others because of our age, more so my partners age. I even had a friend say that we won't be around for grandkids, also why would I want to go back to that again, our freedom is gone now, etc. It does hurt our feelings. I really am after positive insight, please don't comment if it isn't kind.